- Question submitted by Anonymous
I forget how gay I am till I’m around a bunch of straight people.
at dinner last night, a coworker was talking about hanging out with his white friends and getting fed up with the racist jokes, and asked them to tell a white people joke. nobody had any, so he googled and found these. after a few of them, people were a lot less comfortable.
Anyone who hasn’t heard this needs to.
do not do this to me
back to the beginning
i googled basically “why isnt there something like grindr but for ladies” and the answer was “there have been but they all fail because men kept infiltrating them and being disgusting and predatory” amazing why didnt i figure that out on my own
Fucking listen to me.
Edge of Tomorrow comes out on DVD October 7th. See this movie. It was grossly ignored by American audiences and bombed (although it did extremely well overseas). And it shouldn’t have. Because it’s a fantastic Groundhog’s Day-esque sci-fi action adventure movie.
- There’s a lot of time reversal, so if you hate Tom Cruise, he “dies” a lot of times, and if you like/love him, you’ll get to see what a great sense of humor he has (he even said he and the crew had contests to see who could come up with the best “kills”).
- EMILY BLUNT. EMILY BLUNT PLAYING A KICKASS HERO. EMILY BLUNT’S MUSCLES. LOOK AT THE PICTURE THERE. DO IT.
- It’s surprisingly funny. Cruise is surprisingly funny. Watch as he’s literally dragged places, kicking and screaming the entire way.
- In a pile of remakes and reboots and sequels, this was a nice original story in the mix.
- The CGI and action was on point, as was the chemistry between Cruise and Blunt.
- Most importantly: this movie is a complete gender reversal. In regular action movies, the guy is the stoic, moody, weary action hero and the woman is the shrieking, scared sidekick. In this movie…Tom Cruise is the cowardly sidekick, screaming and scared and running away. Emily Blunt is the badass, big fucking hero. She’s the one kicking ass and taking names and she’s run out of names. She’s literally the face of selfless heroism and stone cold determination and strength.
- The male character (Cruise) completely admires the female character (Blunt). He doesn’t talk down to her, he doesn’t call her sweetheart, he doesn’t treat her as his “lesser.” He actually adores her strength. He doesn’t ~knock her down a peg. He respects her.
- The movie is completely unapologetic about the gender role reversals. Blunt’s Rita Vrataski has typically “masculine” traits (she shows little emotion, is closed off, all business, kicks ass, the first time you see her she’s all muscle and working out), Cruise’s William Cage has typically “feminine” traits (he doesn’t want to fight, he’s constantly scared and screaming, he’s more emotional than Rita, he likes to talk, he catches feelings, etc) and the film makes nothing of it. The film carries on as it should instead of sticking these actors in the typical stereotypes. Blunt is the badass hero and Cruise is the scared sidekick and fuck you if you don’t like it, the movie will move forward without you.
So yes, SEE THIS MOVIE. Wonderfully original, surprisingly funny and moving, and the fucking gender role reversal is badass.
- Question submitted by Anonymous
I think you have to put your foot down pretty early on. You can’t be too polite for too long or it’ll ruin what could have been a cool relationship.
The thing is, we all have different needs / wants / whatevers. Some of us need a ton of alone time, or time with our friends. Some of us thrive on the company of others and that could be friends or lovers or co-workers, etc. No one type of person is better or more well-adjusted than any other human type. It’s just about finding a compromise OR finding a human type that can match your needs.
I have to have a good amount of friend time / alone time to feel balanced and healthy. It’s about knowing what you need and being able to express that need. Sometimes it’s a simple as a “Hey sometimes I’m gonna want time for just me, or just me and my friends” but sometimes it might be more difficult to nail down (esp in the beginning of a relaysh bc HIIII NEW FEELS), but you can work to create a schedule or some rules or whatever you need to make sure you have you time.
Unless you mean this is a human that you don’t want to see AT ALL and they won’t leave you alone.. In which case… You should tell them your mom won’t let you hang out with them.
Yea this is definitely a tricky situation. We, of course, have no way of knowing all the particulars, but if what we infer is true (that you are feeling overburdened by someone in your life because they have needs you are feeling you cannot meet), you are definitely in a difficult spot.
Dannielle is right: communication is key, and delivery is everything.
The difference between, “Why do you ALWAYS call me every morning,” and “Hey, I’ve been trying to really balance my time with friends and my time with myself, so I think it would be better if we talked a little less while I figure that out,” is pretty huge. That said, both utterances totally suck to have to say, and usually totally suck to have to hear. It’s not an easy thing, and it won’t be an easy thing, but dealing with it head on and with as much compassion as you can muster will definitely help.
It is okay that you are feeling overwhelmed by another person’s needs. That feeling is valid. You have to express and explain that in some way that is both honest and sensitive, and then… as hard as it may be… you have to remain firm in what you’ve said if they don’t take the hint right away.
You don’t have to answer every text.
You don’t have to hang out every time they ask.
You don’t owe them a million explanations… you only owe them one:
You need more time for you and are feeling overwhelmed, so you are going to take a step back. You care about them, and you know they care about you, so you know that they will help you out by respecting this shift.
Or, like Dannielle said, you can totally blame it on your mom.
i’ve said it before and i’ll say it again:
the big bang theory is not a smart comedy. it relies on cliches and stereotypes that are offensive to everyone they reflect. there is little to no originality in any storyline or relationship.
the funniest thing about this show is that people compare it to 30 rock, parks and rec, louie, veep, etc
there is a difference between a smart show and a show that happens to have nerds on it.
"Horsemanning, or fake beheading, was a popular way to pose in a photograph in the 1920’s. Sometimes spelled horsemaning, the horsemanning photo fad derives its name from the Headless Horseman, a character from “The Legend of Sleepy Hollow.”
HUMAN BEING ARE AND ALWAYS HAVE BEEN SUCH HUGE FUCKING DORKS OKAY.
My roommate and his girlfriend got in the shower together and they’re… Talking about politics?
I was expecting to hear “OH GOD, HARDER,” not “George Washington was entirely correct in his prediction of what distinct parties would do to politics as a whole.”
Nope nevermind, there it is, apparently political debate is just their form of foreplay